Random good happenings!

So our lives have gone from Zack being super busy to both of us being insanely crazy busy in pretty much no time at all.  Here are the things that we have been up to:

• Bensons came
• We had 2 weeks for homework,  good housework, homework, some rest, school, homework and work. (all the homework was Zacks and all the rest was mine)
• Zack's parents came to visit the day his school got out and stayed for a couple of days. (see blog about it!)
• After Zack's parents left, we had 4 days to literally do nothing/whatever we wanted.  It was SO amazing!! 
• Monday of last week was Zack's first day of school, but it was only 1 class and super easy.  Also this marks the day that we became 2012 Notre Dame season football ticket holders!  Such a joyous occasion.
• Tuesday Zack had his first real day of classes and I had what was supposed to be an hour long breakfast meeting at the school I am student teaching at, but it turned into an all day event, well until about 3 because I had visiting teaching. 
• Wednesday I started my Student teaching!  I was not supposed to start until this coming week, but at the meeting on Tuesday, they asked me to start, so I did! It has been so much fun getting to know all of the kids that I am teaching and all of their little personalities!  Lets just say, I think I was born to teach.  It is just the most wonderful thing ever.  SO exhausting. SO SO exhausting. In fact, a funny fact about me is that when I was little, my mom always told me that whoever I married and had to sleep next to at night, she felt sorry for, because I am a crazy sleeper. However I have recently discovered, actually Zack discovered,  that I'm not too bad of a sleeper when I am well rested, however, when I am exhausted, I become hilarious.  I have not been too crazy since we got married, only a few occasions have I talked in my sleep or slept in odd positions, but apparently the last few nights I have been a little crazy.  I felt really bad about it because I can sometimes keep Zack up when he really needs his sleep, but then he told me that he eggs me on!  Like for example, I guess the other night I sat up in my sleep and said in a panic, "No! You need to go first, I'll go second."  So, naturally, Zack said in a panic, only he was completely awake, "No, Bailey, you can't go second. Please don't go second."  I have no idea why he egged me on, but apparently I got mad at him and I don't remember any of it.  Well actually, I do remember him being really annoying during the night, but I couldn't remember why.  That must have been it.
• Thursday and Friday were a blur of teaching and school and early mornings and late nights.  
• That brings us to the weekend where we got lots of rest and went to a beautiful baptism and really enjoyed ourselves.  So now it is back to the grind!

Below are some pictures depicting some of the fun we have had.  Hope you enjoy! Til next time...

Holding our season tickets!  With our great friends Brian and Carolyn Esplin!!

I hurt my shoulder lifting with Zack one day and didn't want to do my hair, so Zack did it for me.  This was the finished product.  Needless to say, my arm got better REAL fast.

ND soccer!!!!  Not half as fun as football, but it was still a blast!

This is our pseudo pet Frogger.  We named him Frogger like the game because he lives outside and every time we see him he is crossing the sidewalk.  We see him always at nights and I give him water.  We really do love him.

So, it had been about a week since I had seen Frogger, and I was literally getting worried about him.  The lawn had been mowed, and I was afraid that he had gotten chopped up or eaten my a nearby cat that Zack saw.  However.... He lives!!!  We saw him just last night at I was so excited that I literally got teary eyed.  Why do I care so much for this toad?! 

Its Time for Mike and Steph!

Wow! What a whirlwind of weeks! We were so grateful to have a visit from the Olsens!!! Seriously it was so good to have family around.  I hope that when I say this, I do not offend anyone, because it is not meant to be offensive.  But when we lived in Utah, don't get me wrong, I always loved seeing family and having them around, and we didn't get to see them much, so it was still great whenever we saw them, but I guess I never really appreciated how much they did for us.  When we were only a couple of hours or less away, it was easy to give us a freezer full of meat, or left overs from dinner that would make a few lunches for us.  Or when Zack got hurt, it was so nice that his parents were able to give him this ice machine thing.  I mean, I was always grateful for the help, but I don't think that I realized how nice it was to just be able to go home.  And the funny thing is, "going home" could be used for when we went to Toquerville or Kaysville.  Both Zack and I felt at home in both places. 

But back to what I was saying before, I never really appreciated the perks of having family all around.  Yes, the left overs, or pumpkin bread from Grandee (my grandma) or going out to dinner with Nana, (Zack's Grandma), or getting left overs or meat or whatever it might be, was wonderful, but the best part was being surrounded with love.  We are surrounded with love here in South Bend, our ward and friends are so wonderful, but being surrounded with loving family is something that is irreplaceable.  That was really brought to my mind when Mike and Steph were here.  They are so incredibly willing to help us both physically and emotionally.

I am grateful that even though we live far away, I know that families can be together forever.  Not just for this life, but for eternity!  It gives me comfort every single day. (to learn more about my beliefs visit www.mormon.org )
 
 Below are some pictures of all the fun times that we had together while here!!  I hope you enjoy! til next time...

Mike and Steph in front of the Football stadium!  First time being to campus, and I think they really loved it!  It was different than they expected, and I think it was the same for Zack and I.  You expect it to look so... old I guess, and really it all looks pretty new.  But regardless it was fun to be there and walk around campus.

Steph and I at this really great beach only about an hour from us!  It was so hot! We wished that we brought our bathing suits. :(  I would have gone in but we had to drive home in the car.  But we did all get our feet in! (besides party pooper Zack, he didn't want to have to take his socks off and get them all sandy)

This is a beautiful picture that Zack took while we walked around a lake on campus.  It was such a beautiful night for a walk.

White Sox game!  Loving time with the parents!

Zack and I on the pier at Silver Beach.  Like I said before, so beautiful!

Walking around Chicago on the first day with the  Olsens. So fun! and a really cool piece of art.  The funny thing was how HOT it was up by it! That sun just reflected off it and it was like 10 degrees hotter when you got up by it.

Visit from the Bensons!!

What an amazing week!!!  I had the week off of work, Zack had an easier week of school, and... drumroll please..... THE BENSONS CAME!  Well, most of them.  Mike and Truman were spending some much needed father son time, but Debi, Tatum, and Talmage came and stayed with us for an entire week!! I seriously cannot describe how much fun that was for us!  It was a lot of work, having 5 people living with 1 bathroom, 2 small bedrooms, and a tiny rest of the house, but man oh man was it worth it! 

On the way to the airport, we saw a plane land, which might have been theirs.  I was so excited for them to land that I may or may not have rolled down the car window and screamed at the top of my lungs, "Hello Debi! Hello Tatum! Hello Talmage!!!".  I may have, or I may not have.  I will let you decide what you think.

The first day they got here late in the evening so after they got here we got them all settled in their little room and basically put them to bed.  The next day, we all slept... a LOT! I was so happy to have some sleep that day and get some rest to gear up for the rest of the week!  I would go into details about all the crazy fun things we did, but honestly, I'm not sure it would sound all that fun to anyone but us.  We went to a soft ball game of Zack's, we went to the pool, out to dinner, out for ice cream, cleaned/re-finished my couches, and just enjoyed each other.  I know that might not sound like a crazy fun week, but man oh man, I cannot tell you how much I absolutely enjoyed it.  I honestly don't know if I can express how much this sweet family means to Zack and I.  We have been with them since Talmage was 3 months old.  They have taught us so much about parenthood and relationships and how to overcome obstacles.  They have helped both Zack and I mature and treat each other more fairly and overcome those little petty immature arguments.  These kids quickly stole our hearts and then we grew closer to their amazing parents.  If it weren't for them, we would not even be attending school at Notre Dame.  They have believed us and pushed us forward and inspired us to become something more than we had originally planned.  However, even more than that, they have become our best friends.  It was such an amazing week that I cannot even describe.  I took lots of video, but for some reason all of my videos from my phone, no matter what way they were filmed, are loading side ways.  There is one below that you can watch because it was too good to leave out, but here are some pictures! Please note that Tatum took over 100 pictures on my phone of herself.  I believe that when she did this she got crap on my lens.  Because of that, Hardly any pictures that I took turned out until I figured it out and cleaned it off.  I know it looks like we love Talmage more, but it is absolutely not true! We love all of our kids the same! We just have more pictures that turned out with Talmage in them.  Anyways, I hope you enjoy!

Til next time!

Surprising the Olsens!

So, a couple of weeks ago, Zack and I get a text from his dad saying, Hey I need to talk to one of you ASAP.  My first thought? Oh great, who died?!  Don't worry, nobody died.  He just had a plan.  He wanted to surprise everyone and fly Zack and I out to Kaysville to go to Jace's ordination. (He was ordained an elder!)  It took a little bit of work, but we were able to nail down a time that we could make it to Chicago to make a flight to Kaysville, stay for one day, and then fly right on back.  We woke up at 4 am on Saturday to drive 2 hours to the airport. It was an EARLY morning to say the least, but we barely made it on time! 

When we got to the Salt Lake airport Zack's dad was there to pick us up.  He had told his wife he needed to go put gas in his truck.  Just in case you were wondering, it takes 20 minutes to get to the airport from Zack's house, so by the time he left for the airport, really got gas, and returned, it was well over an hour.  I thought his cover up would not be good enough.  However this was not the case, he pulled off the surprise just perfectly.

Steph, please don't kill me, but I am posting the video of the surprise.  It was the greatest thing, and it needed to be shared.  The good news is, it is side ways, and I was not a good recorder, so it is hard to see.  Also it makes a big fool out of me.  I am very much like my mother in the fact that I am absolutely horrible at surprises.  You can tell I am shaking with excitement, and my stupid goofy laugh is just ridiculous.  But it was priceless.

The day went well! we went to Kaden's baseball game, then had a fun dinner around the fire, then woke up and went to Jace's ordination, hurried home to scarf down some dinner, and then were off on our way to the airport.  With such a whirlwind of a weekend, I only got one picture, but you can see it below!

Til next time!

 

What a week!

Wow! I better not be falling behind on my blogging!  I have been scolded by a few for not posting yet this week, and for that I don't really apologize to be honest, because it was a wonderful weekend, such a wonderful weekend in fact that I didn't have time to sit on the computer and post about it.  To sum it all up a little bit for ya..  Last week was amazing.  First of all, we had the Fourth of July.  Our actual fourth was a little boring. we had the day off which was really nice! and we had the missionaries and one of Zack's good buddies Brian over, so that was fun! Oh, and I made a really delicious banana pudding with yummy strawberries and blueberries on it to make it more American (picture below)!  But the rest of the night was pretty chill.  We didn't want to spend money on fireworks, so we didn't buy any of our own, and lets be honest, doing your own fireworks is much more fun is 1) you can spend a ton of money on them to get the big ones, or 2) you have a group of people to do them with, including kids.  Since we had neither of those, we decided against it.  We did go Mini golfing again, but that was not something I like to remember too much primarily because I went out with cute curly hair and came back with straight stringy hair.  It was SOO HOTT!!!  I mean I grew up in Vegas and it was still KILLER! Humidity is NOT my friend.  Now that being said, I did like 10x better this second round than I did last time, so I was happy about that. And also we found (and I caught it!) a frog outside our house on our way back into the air conditioning. (picture also below!)

So that was Wednesday, Thursday night we went to a Fireworks show! YAY!! weird that they didn't have one on the actual holiday, but regardless, we were happy to go.  As far as I'm concerned it was great because it extended the holiday out a little longer, and who doesn't love a longer holiday?  Besides starting half an hour late, the show was pretty awesome!  We had these great people behind us.  Well this great man.  We will call him Larry.  He was an absolute crack up! He is what I would call... redneck. Yes, full blown redneck! He pronounced America Uh-mur-ica, and said it a lot as he was explaining to his son how the fireworks go off.  He told his son that a man with a torch was basically running back and forth lighting off one firework at a time.  Soon after that those fast fan-like ones were going off.  I wondered how the man ran so fast from each one with time to light the others as well.  It made for a great picture in my mind!! (for those of you who don't know, it is all electronic now.  They use computers to do the show).  So while it was a pretty great show, it did make me miss the Kaysville show.  There was no music or anything that the fireworks went to and it just didn't have quite the same feel to it.  Regardless, it was so wonderful to watch the fireworks wrapped in the arms of the man I love!

After the Fireworks, we took a day off from all of the fun. We had to rest up for Saturday!  Saturday we woke up early in the morning and went to the Chicago Temple! It was so fun!  Driving to Chicago was awesome too! It was really cool to see the city and to think, wow! this is real! We are really here!  A year ago we had hardly even thought about coming here and yet now, here we are!  There are pictures of all of that below.  We had planned to go to the Zoo or a museum afterwards but we took longer in the temple than initially planned (which is always a great feeling!) and then the traffic in Chicago was so horrible that we decided to go to Michigan City and go to the outlet mall instead!  It was a really great day and wonderful to spend so much time with my sweetheart.

Then, this week, on Tuesday, I could never forget that we had our 3rd wedding anniversary!  Both Zack and I said how it is so weird because in ways its like, holy cow! THREE years!  That is so long! Where has the time gone???  And on the other hand its like, holy cow! THREE years! That's it?!  You mean you had a life before me? And I had a life before you??  I'm sure it only gets worse with age but man, it was great to celebrate our anniversary.  Zack got me some sexy new TOMS heels and some HOTT Nike work out stuff and I got him some SWEET new Basketball shoes and a nice fitness shirt to go with it.  It was definitely a wonderful day.  Well now that I have rambled on enough about how our week was, here are some pictures! I hope you enjoy.

Til next time!

Chicago sky line!

Me watching Fireworks

The Frog that I found!

Outside the Temple after a wonderful session!

This cool fountain at the temple!

The day of fireworks, Zack looking out over the bridge into the distance.

On our way to the temple! The long drive must have been taking its toll on zack. Or maybe it was all of the outrageous toll fees that were taking their toll on him.

laying in the grass waiting for fireworks to start!

Zack loved that the building was so tall that you couldn't see the top of it.

Another Fireworks shot from Zack

Waiting for Fireworks to begin!

For my first try, I think it was pretty good! And now I learned a lot of great tips to help me make it look better next time!

Crazy Storms ahead!

Hello again! This week has been pretty fun! I think the most notable thing is that we have had severe weather all week! Earlier this week there was really crazy and heavy, but beautiful thunder storms.  It was pretty windy, but no real warnings yet.  But today, when I was rudely awakened from my Sunday nap by a crazy howling wind, I got pretty nervous! There is this giant tree outside our bedroom window that I always look at when I wake up, and it was swaying to and fro. It definitely looks like it is going to fall down.  However Zack and I are very happy that this is happening today, since we are together, if there were to be a tornado, we won't be separated.  But I'm watching the weather right now and it looks like the storm has died down in our area for the night. So good news!

Also this week we honestly had a pretty relaxing week until yesterday.  We look forward to Saturdays a little too much!  We especially love it because we get to spend time together!  Zack goes with the guys in his program and they play basketball at noon and then we hang out and maybe play some call of duty (yes, I have decided to like playing xbox because Zack likes it and it allows him to have some relaxing Zack time but I feel like I am a part of it since we are doing it together), do a nice little dinner together, and then go on a date!  This week we got a great deal and were able to pay for 3 date nights for the price of less than 2!  One of the local Put Put golf centers had a great deal so be bought 3 rounds of miniature golf for less than the price of 2. You can tell we are pretty excited about it!  Zack absolutely KILLED me, but what else is new?  It was a really fun date night!  And, I can't help but mention the HOTT pants he bought me! I have been dying to get some colored jeans, and last night he got me 2 pairs! 1 pair that is coral colored and one pair that is red.  I seriously love them and they are so incredibly cute I cannot wait until tomorrow when I can wear one!  Well, enough of my talking away, my mother in law requested some more pictures so I will be doing my best to fulfill that since I think it is a great idea and a bit of a scrapbook that we can look at later. So without further ado,(what an odd word!  I had to look it up!) here they are!  Enjoy! Til next time!

Zack playing some ball!

Going up for a big shot!!! He is up against who I think is the best guy that they play with (I call him headband because of the sweet headband he wears, also if I didn't know Zack I would call him arm band because of his sweet arm band that he wears every week), and by the way, Zack schooled him!

A tree on campus that fell over due to the severe weather.

Zack in on the action! He is in the green basketball jersey

Making a jump shot! that kid next to him in the gray is his buddy brian.

I worked out here for a while while they were playing ball. You can't see it because of the lighting but out the window is a beautiful view of campus. it was rather nice to work out there, if only that building had air conditioning!

You can't tell but this was the game winning shot! Go Zack!  Just like him, winning it for his team!

Another shot that he made.  No, he was not shooting at that hoop in front of him, there is another one outside the picture.

This hole killed me.  if you notice, I have 9 fingers up. Thats how many times it killed me. nine shots to get that stupid I mean um silly, ball into the hole.

We both wona prize! Zack got a coupon thing to get like 50 tokens for the arcade for only $3.50 and then I got $2 off the next time we come to play! too bad we already payed for three visits! Oh well! We still won!

Inspiration

Well, for those of you who don't know, millions of women struggle with infertility.  Some struggle with specific problems, some with unexplained issues, some with miscarriage, and some, for no reason at all it seems can't get pregnant.  I don't know which category I fall into to be honest.  Probably the miscarriage one mixed with unexplained.  Regardless, when you realize you have a hard time having a baby, people "come out" all around you telling you how either they or someone they know has struggled to build their family.  I think that aside from losing your husband, not being able to get pregnant is one of the hardest things a woman can go through, especially if you believe your role in this earthly life is to be a mother.  It causes depression and anxiety and so much hardship.  It can put strain on your marriage and you become sensitive to EVERYTHING around you.  Things that you shouldn't be sensitive about just are amplified and different comments that mean no harm whatsoever can be a knife through your heart.

And then, all of your friends and family are pregnant or have kids and its honestly hard to be around them without feeling sorry for yourself.  Or people tell you to "relax. its because you are so stressed that it won't happen for you". I think that is a pet peeve of anyone who struggles with infertility.  While there is definitely something to be said about not stressing and relaxing and putting your mind on other things, its pretty much impossible for those of us who want nothing more than to be a mother to just relax and forget about it. I wish I could tell people, don't tell me to relax! Tell me to keep plugging away! It will happen when it is supposed to.  Not that that is easy to hear either, because "when its supposed to" might be forever away, but we can't relax about this.  It is too painful, and there are reminders literally everywhere that you go.

Now, that being said, as women who struggle to start or grow our families, we often get WAY to bogged down talking about the pain.  So this post is for all of us.  I heard this love song. I'm sure most everyone has, but for some reason, to me, it felt like the situation that I'm in.  Every word of this song inspires me and is perfect for the infertility situation.  So I took the song and put some pictures to it in hopes to inspire.  I am a serious novice at all of this, but the movie is here with a little bit of inspiring notes afterwards.  If you hate it, so be it, but it inspires me, so I thought I'd share.

I hope that we can all realize that we need to keep fighting for our future children.  Every Day we need to fight. whether its eating healthier, gaining or losing weight, or just plain growing closer to our Heavenly Father, our children deserve our fight for them.  And through that fight, we need to remember all of the blessings that we have gained through these trials.  For me, I know that I have gained a greater love for my savior and especially a greater love for my husband.  I know that our relationship will withstand anything that is thrown at us, and that Zack is the single most important thing to me here on this earth.  I know that Marriage is Eternal and I know that I am loved.  Focus on those.

Til next time!